Reason #1 For Staying Pure - Original Design

Ever wonder why sex was created? Or why would the Bible speak of waiting til marriage when God created us as sexual beings with natural instincts to engage in sex? Not to worry. I've wondered the exact same thing. First let's examine the culture today and do some comparisons.

First, no one really wants to wait til marriage to have sex. The emphasis becomes, will I like it with this person? Will they satisfy me? So the focus immediate denotes to selfish desires. This does not mean that you shouldn't be curious. But it is to say that this thought alone should not be the deciding factor on if someone should wait to give themselves sexually to their partner.

Next, our culture is ingrained with sex, from movies, to music, and even cartoons. And the interesting part is, sex becomes a part of everything. It engulfs how things are sold and how ideas are constructed. It's the stamp on anything worth having or valuable. We are affected in every capacity, when we go to work, go home, surf the net, or even walk down the street. This ultimately creates a social pressure to have sex. A woman may feel as though someone she is attracted to, may refuse her if she holds out. A teenage boy may sense criticism from his friends if chooses to wait to have sex.

So the question then becomes if God knew created man, knew the nature of man, and even knew the state of sexual explicit content we are exposed to daily, then does he acutally expect us remain pure until marriage? The answer is yes. And here's how.

Even without digging to deep into the Bible we can agree that before there was Adam and Eve, there was Adam and God. Here's my point. While single, the Lord wants us to establish a relationship with Him. He gives us the tools and power we need to live in a manner that flees from sexual immorality and waits for marriage. The scripture says:

1 Corinthians 6:18
"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body."

Here is what this scripture means. The bible says that our bodies are temples of the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:19). When we accept Christ in our hearts and lives, we essentially invite Him (His character, His likeness, His Word) to live in the house we label the human body. Once we commit fornication, we not only sin against His word, but also against the body we declared was His and invited Him into during salvation. For those who have chosen not to accept Christ, we still sin against our body but we do so in the sense that our bodies were originally intended for sex during marriage, and we defile and tamper with this intent every time premartial sex occurs.

The excuses for sex before marriage are limitless. Many include sexual compatibility, believing its natural, feeling you've already done it before so what's the big deal, seeking pleasure or commitment, peer pressure, feeling its stupid to wait, that religion dictates some people's decisions and so on. Here are some scriptures from the Bible regarding this matter.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 warns us, "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God."

And 1 Corinthians 6:13b, 18 tells us, "Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without (outside) the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body."

And Galatians 5:19-21 reads, "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these, adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness ... of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel (body) in sanctification and honor, not in lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which do not know God."


If you are reading this, it's not too late to confess your wrong, and ask Christ to help you flee from fornication. I know. I was living with a man, in a relationship and somehow didn't think anything was wrong with it. But it is wrong. God calls us to a standard that is impossible to attain without him but includes so many wonderful rewards. All we have to do is say yes. Will you say yes?

The Degradation of Sex

For the older adults, remember the time when sex was considered a gift; a joyous expression as you will of the love two people had for one another. Men actually worked on cultivating relationships and this attitude of "if you don't give it to me, I'll find someone who will" didn't exist. Well those days are long gone and there have been plenty of porn, sexually explicit lyrics, sensual ads, sexually charged tv programs and movies that have contributed to the demise of those days. And while we can focus all day long on just those topics alone, I'll cover those at a later date. For now, we'll just discuss the ways sex is degraded and what we as women and men can do to preserve our purity for the perfect time, which according to God is within a covenant of marriage.

Sexual Pressure

Say you like someone and you notice that the intimacy level is pretty strong and headed toward sex. You hesitate while the other person pleads for your willingness to proceed. If you decide to cave in and have sex, what will the reason be? Anyone who hesitates or is unsure, really doesn't want it. So what is it? Will it be because you were afraid of how that person would react if you said no? Would you fear not being liked or the person choosing someone else based on your rejection for sex? Do you feel as though giving someone what they want equals them giving you what you want? If you answered yes to any of these, then you have to realize that this is a recipes for disaster right from the start. The first question you need ask yourself is, what does this person really want from me? You'll know if it's sex once you decline their offer because you'll be dropped pretty quickly. The second question you need to think about is, are the consequences worth the risk. Meaning, what if you give this person what he/she wants and they drop you anyway? Then what, which that is usually how it plays out. What if pregnancy or an STD occurs? Surely unless you're anticipating pregnancy, an STD is never a consequence worth risking. So know that when you're being pressured to have sex, it's ok to say no but it's best that the person know where you stand on sex from the beginning so that there is no confusion. Also, guard yourself. Infatuation leaves us open and vulnerable. Refuse to give someone your heart, unless they have given you theirs first.

Emphasis on the Manner and Not the Act

There's almost no such thing as making love anymore. At least if there is, not many seem to be practicing it. Years ago the trend was not to focus on the size of a man's package and just the motion in the ocean. Well women weren't buying it. And instead of sex being beautiful and explosive, it turned competitive. Women and men compared lovers and bragged on things he/she did and how great it was. Next came the emphasis on oral sex. And those that swore that if you weren't doing it the oral way, you missed out on something no one should miss out on. Now a sexual experience isn't complete unless it involves oral or anal. Now let me just say for those that are sexually mature when it comes to experiencing sex, you are burning yourself out. You are going to make it incredibly difficult for anyone to satisfy you and will end up living in adultery while married or living miserably single while bed hopping. You decide.

Finding Value in Sex

So what about the actual act makes sex valuable anyway? Well look at it this way. Sex involves your will, your emotions, your thoughts, your heart, your soul. You're giving the best part of who you are away and taking with you a piece of that person in the process. There's a soul and an actual person with feelings behind the physical exterior and can get damaged in the process. Sex may feel good and for a moment may fill your sexual appetite. But the destruction from it can last a lifetime. So be wise with your gift and no, it's never too late to wise up.

Why My Journey Toward Purity

My name is Tina. I'm 30 years old and I have one child. Her name is Emmaree and she is three. I've been married once and am currently divorced. So with all that background you are probably wondering why even take the plung to purity. I mean it's not like I can truly call myself pure. Well it's because I believe that it's never too late to decide to walk the path of purity. Sure it's not going to be easy. But this is my journey towards that road.

My reasoning for wanting to be sexually pure is heavily spiritual. I do belive that sex is a sacred spiritual act and can only be honored in a marriage covenant. However, one does not have to be spiritual to desire purity. I am a Christian and while I welcome all who want to read or add to this blog, I do have to say that the basis of my beliefs and this blog will center Christianity.

Another reason why I decided to be sexually pure is because while sex is pleasurable, the consequences makes the act not worth doing. No one really exposes the consequences to sexual sin. Well I want to research and uncover the truth. What really happens when we open ourselves up to sexual activity outside of marriage and even inside of marriage for that matter. There's much to be said and much to reveal and I hope you tag along with me while we learn together the real truth about sex.